בסיעתא דשמיא



To You, Dear Bas Yisroel,



We are delighted at seeing you and hope to have you stay with us forever.

We would like to share with you some especially beautiful ideas and holy thoughts that you might not have had the opportunity to hear about yet.
 Our hopes are that the following thoughts and ideas inspire and elevate you, as well as inspire with the All- Mighty's Help the spiritual elevation of our People! Please, do your utmost to share this booklet with your husband, family members, neighbors, acquaintances, and all who need it! You are welcome to copy it!!! Meriting the public is a tremendous mitzvah and ב'ה an atonement for the soul for sins of influencing others towards sin.

American Jews come to Eretz Yisroel. Plenty of Israelis fly to America too, although their aims are very different.

Jews from Eretz Yisroel fly to America to collect money for yeshivos and shuls ect. However, we haven’t heard of an American meshulach come to collect tzedaka for an American Jew.
If then, what brings American Jews here? The answer is obvious:  The strong desire to thrive in ruchnius (spirituality) and to attach themselves both to the place of the Bais Hamikdash and to the place of Hashem Yisborach and His children.
For this reason we wish to share with you thoughts of kedusha  (holiness) which comes from a most loving and caring heart.
This loving message is:  The Great Spiritual Position of  Jewish Women in the World.
Men “bench” (make a bracha) each day - a bracha that might annoy us a little.  They praise Hashem for not have been created as women.  How annoying!  Do we, Jewish women and girls deserve to be treated as if we are second quality, compared to Jewish men? 
There’s a beautiful peirush (explanation) on this. Men have many more miztvos-commandments then women do.  They even have the biggest mitzvah of all:  learning TorahNonetheless, we have a mitzvah, a merit that counterparts and is equal to their torah learning.

The Vilna Gaon says, that just like the main Mitzvah for men is Torah learning, so is tznius-modesty the main Mitzvah for women,   as is written in the book of Chessed Lealafim:  סימן ג': The woman’s reward in Olam Habba depends on her sacrifice for tznius (modesty)), for the harder her challenges will be, so will her reward, in exact proportion to this, be that much greater.


We all have the urge to impress and attract.  Nevertheless, one must be honest! Any addition to one's beautification outdoors decreases our tznius-modesty level.  The meaning of the word tznius-modesty is both "a concealing and a covering" from all people's view and/or from their other sensory perceptions, such as hearing (song). Any performance (act-behaviour and/or apparel and/or headgear) that draws onlookers to look and/or listen etc. and that tends to increase immoral thoughts, etc. has a destructive spiritual influence on the persons involved, on our entire nation and on the whole world! This we, women were commanded by Hashem, even before we were created, to be tzniusdig-modest, as is written in Midrash Rabba on the Possuk :
"ויבן ה' אלוקים את הצלע " that on each and every limb that He created in the Woman, He said “Be modest!”.  Now we can understand why men thank Hashem for not creating them women, and not giving them the tremendous responsibility that Hashem gave us! We, have an ongoing inner battle that goes against our own traitsIf we chass vesholom transgress a tznius mitzvah, we don’t sin alone, we cause other men to sin too!   Men can easily transgress the issur in the Torah :
 "ולא תתורו...אחרי עיניכם" ( not to see and follow one's eyes, usually resulting from some provocation or temptation) whenever they pass by a woman that’s not careful enough with her performance (appearance and behaviour) as men’s emotions are easily aroused, as is written in the book Orchos Tzadikim:  in Shaar Hagaava:  When a woman beautifies herself before men, she arouses their emotions, and will be terribly punished, as she is blamed for putting obstacles in men’s ways, which may directly lead to their failure, G-d Forbid! She thus receives their punishments in their place!
Rabbenu Yonnah writes in the Iggeres Hatshuva:  The woman must be careful that other than her husband, nobody should look at her. A man who derives pleasure from looking at a woman’s face and/or her hands, will be sent straight to Gehenom, and she will be punished for each and every one of them (men), since she caused them to sin.
Now we can understand another reason the men say the bracha of  "שלא עשני אשה". In being created men they are exempted from the ongoing struggle of the women.


Every day we women recite the brocho" ברוך שעשני כרצונו", meaning that by making this brocho we confirm that we want to do Hashem’s will. How great and mighty is the woman that overcomes her Yetzer Harah, and dresses tzniusly (with modesty).
Unfortunately, sometimes we get confused when we go out and see our neighbors, friends or other women who dress in an untzniusdig (immodest) manner.  It can be short skirts or tight clothes that emphasize the body’s curves. Many times it will be beautiful sheitels (wigs) that are very eye catching, much more than we can even fathom. When we see many frum (religious)  women wearing these clothing, we are convinced that it is probably allowed, and we too follow their misdoings.  We talk ourselves into believing that it’s permissible, and we too wear similar clothing and/or head coverings such as wigs.
Therefore in order to strengthen ourselves, we must remember the words of the Rambam in hilchos Teshuva (סימן י'): “ How horrifying it is to be מחטיא הרבים – a person that causes others to sin – and the harsh punishments that await them.”   The Rambam stresses that this is not only if one causes others to sin in big and severe sins, but also through light sins, he/she may lose the Olam Habah. We must remember, that all of Yidishkiet (Judaism) is based on tznius and kedusha.
Midrash Tanchuma in parshas Vayishlach emphasizes that the jewelry was given to the woman for indoor use and not for outdoor use. The Holy Zohar writes on Shir Hashirim  in praise of a woman wearing her jewelry indoors before her husband, but, when beautifying herself outdoors in the streets, it is a terrible sin and the punishment is awful.(The Pele Yoetz in the “Machshava” part, the Me-Am Loez in Parshat Vayishlach, the Nodda Beyehuda in the book of Ahavat Tzion דרוש ה', the Shevet Mussar in פרק י"ז-ט"ו).


Sometimes women think that wearing jewelry outdoors, is necessary for their relationship with their husbands, but the Chafetz Chaim Zatzal writes in his book Geder Olam פ"ד):) “she shouldn’t let the Yetzer Harah  fool her into thinking that she’ll be  saved from punishment with the excuse of adorning herself for her husband so as not to be detestable to him. This is a big mistake!
Rebbetzin Batsheva Kanievsky, may she rest in peace, had often said that a woman who gives up an article of clothing or modern day wigs that she really likes, for the sake of tznius (modesty), is considered to have brought a korban to Hashem! This tremendous sacrifice has the power to bring enormous salvations to Klal Yisroel and to each person, as well.
Let us take upon ourselves, beloved ladies, not to go outside with jewelry that sticks out, not to wear tight clothing and/or short, straight skirts, and to always cover our hair with cloth coverings (tichels). Let's leave all the beauty and adornments for our dear husbands and finally we'll be able to bless the blessing     "ברוך שעשני כרצונוwith real joy.With the mitzvah of modesty we sanctify Hashem and we bring the Divine Presence into our midst to rest upon our Nation. Fortunate are we! In this great merit we are also a light for the gentiles!
 "בזכות נשים צדקניות עתידין להיגאל"

Love ,   Neshos Yisroel


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